We are often curious of how will people react after meeting us for first time when we move to a new place, joined a new job, etc. Here I am listing six ways to as per my knowledge which you can apply in your life to make people like you especially if you are meeting them first time.
1. BECOME GENUINELY INTERESTED IN OTHER PEOPLE
This is very basic thing to do to make the conversation with the other person workout. We know that many times we are so obsessed in our thoughts that we do not actually pay attention to the person to whom we are talking with or we just don't like the topic on which the other person is talking about, in both the cases we are likely to fail in making that person to like us.
So, if you really want to make the thing work out than get interested in what other person is talking or what you can do is find a certain topic which interests you both .
2. Smile
A smile can be understood by every person living on this planet. A smile on your face can transfer good vibes to other person.This expression can communicate the happiness and joyfulness to other person. And this thing also doesn't require much effort all you have to do is stretch you lips wide and show your teeth. I am not promoting fake smiling but trying to tell to show how happy you feel after meeting that person , it really worked for me many times. Whether you are anchoring on stage , public speaking , making a you tube video, talking to your colleagues a smile on your face can make a huge positive impact on people to whom you are communicating.
And you know what is amazing thing about smiling that when we smile the other person also smiles(exceptions are always there, but let's not talk about that). So, smile.
3. SPELL CORRECT NAME OF THAT PERSON
Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. If you don't know how to pronounce someones name just ask him/her how to pronounce his/her name and next time pronounce it correctly.
4. BE A GOOD LISTENER
Always let the other person do a lot of talking, encourage them to speak about themselves. Patiently listening to that person will automatically make you a good conversationalist, cause many people want to talk about themselves and satisfy there ego by telling you what they did. And always remember that be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise to be a good listener, i.e show a cheerful approval of what that person is telling and always make a rich praise it.
So if you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask question that other person enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and there accomplishments.
Remember that the people you are talking to are hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems. A person's toothache means more to that person than a famine in china which kills a million people. A boil in one's neck interests one more than forty earthquakes in Africa. Think of that the next time you start a conversation.
5. TALK IN TERMS OF OTHER PERSONS INTEREST
Everyone who was ever a guest of Theodore Roosevelt was astonished at the range and diversity of his knowledge. Whether his visitor was a cowboy or a Rough Rider, a New York politician or a diplomat. Roosevelt knew what to say. And how was it done? The answer was simple. Whenever Roosevelt expected a visitor, he sat up late a night before, reading up on the subject in which he knew his guest was particularly interested.
For Roosevelt he knew, as all leaders know, that a royal road to a person's heart is to talk about things that he or she interests most.
For example if you visited your relative and you meet a teenage boy who is interested in cricket then talking about current matches going on, who is best player, etc. will excite that boy and will eventually end up you having a good conversation with him.
6. MAKE THE OTHER PERSON FEEL IMPORTANT
Philosophers have been speculating on the rules of human relationships for thousands of years, and out of all that speculation, there has evolved only one important precept. It is not new. It is as old as history. Zoroaster taught it to his followers in Persia 2500 years ago. Confucius preached it in China 24 centuries ago. Lao-tse, the founder of Taoism taught it to his disciples in the valley of the Han. Buddha preached it on the bank of the holy Ganges five hundred years before Christ. The sacred book of Hinduism taught it among the stony hills of Judea nineteen centuries ago. Jesus summed it up in one thought - probably the most important rule in the world: "Do unto others as you would have others to unto you".
Whenever you want somebody to like you always tell them something good about them. For example if your friend has a collection of stones and for him is the most important thing, then praising his collection will eventually make him happy as somebody has praised the thing which is most important to him. You might feel so what is my profit in that conversation?
What you got is that priceless expression on his face when you praised his collection. And the thing that he will be happy rest of his day, you made his day better by radiating happiness.
Making feel important to someone is very easy and simple all you have to do is praise the thing that you think they cared the most or tell them something good about themselves.